Should girls make the first move?
Who do you think should make the first move when initiating a relationship? Everyone is afraid of rejection, but who is more afraid? Or is the better question, who is better at handling rejection? Or maybe the question is, why should a girl/guy make the first move? I think a lot of people would say “a guy should because that’s just the way it is”, but I’m sitting on the fence with this one, so here is a balanced, neutral*cough*, and succinct discussion of who should make the first move.
Disclaimer: I know I’m generalising so you aren’t doing me a favour by pointing it out.
Reasons why guys should make the first move (aka reasons why girls should NOT make the first move):
1. Girls are proud.
You think girls like admitting weakness? (Yes, liking someone is a weakness, there, I said it. They use it in all the Disney and superhero movies, so hah it must be true). Girls don’t like to leave any possible room for rejection, because this is a great blow to her pride, so it’s unlikely that they will make the first move. A girl’s pride is like much like a lion’s – hurt her pride and you are dead to her. Figuratively speaking, of course… *shifty eyes*
Also, girls are very emotional. We tend to think about things a little too much. I’ll let you figure out the rest on your own.
2. Girls are lazy.
I know a lot of people would argue that guys are lazy, but honestly, guys ask yourself this: how many times has a girl asked (correction, demanded) you to: hold her bags when shopping, drive her places because she can’t be bothered walking/driving herself/getting her own damn licence, give her a piggyback for distances that don’t require a car, open doors for her, be her bodyguard, pay for stuff, feed her, or finish her sentences? As you can see, if she can’t even be bothered walking from point A to B, what makes you think she’ll want to confess her love to a guy? That’s just so much effort that can be used on something else like, say, shopping or sleeping.
3. It’s a guy’s duty.
Call it traditional, overly romantacised, naive, unfair stereotyping, whatever. A lot of girls expect guys to make the first move. Hell, even a lot of guys feel like it’s their job to come to ask a girl out. It’s kind of like a marriage proposal (or witch hunt) – it’s the man’s job to seek the woman. Guys should fight for what they want, if they really want it. I mean, if guys can tackle and hurt each other over a ball in <insert sport>, I’m sure it’s not that much more strenuous to ask a girl out, right?
Reasons as to why girls should make the first move:
1. Guys are thick-headed/a little slow.
…Unless it comes to cars, sports or games. I’ve noticed that 99% of the time, guys wouldn’t be able to tell if a girl liked them unless it was literally spelt out for them. Actually, I don’t even know if this would work because they are that thick. A lesson that I’ve learnt when it comes to guys: subtle hints don’t work. Obvious hints don’t work. VERY obvious hints don’t work. Just tell them what you want, because you might be waiting a while (i.e. forever).
2. Break the stereotype.
Aren’t you feminists sick of being told that men have all the power? Who decided that it’s a man’s job to seek out their love?! Why do they get to choose who/when to date someone?! Take matters into your own hands and woMAN up! Girls have just as much guts as guys do, right?! YEAH! GIRL POWER!
But seriously, I respect girls who break the stereotype and take things into their own hands instead of just waiting around helplessly for something that might not even happen. What’s this idea that Prince Charming will one day find you and sweep you off your feet in a supermarket or some other kind of modern-day romantic setting? Puh-lease, this isn’t Hollywood, this is real life. It’s called being realistic, being in control of your life, not wasting time, handling your own emotions, and moving forward instead of staying still. People should try it.
3. Guys find it attractive.
Well I’m not too sure if this one is true or if my male friends were just lying to me in my time of advice-needing to shut me up, but apparently guys find it attractive when a girl demonstrates confidence. Even if he ends up rejecting her, he will forever like that confident part of her. I can’t expand on this too much because I simply cannot comprehend the logic (my take on it is this: “You’re confident and that makes you sexy but not sexy enough for me to want to date you, perhaps because there are so many other things wrong with you, in which case I actually don’t find you sexy at all and hence the idea of you being attractive has become obsolete, okay bye”), but for argument’s sake, let’s assume it’s true. (Anyone, feel free to explain this logic to me.)